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(including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were
sore. We were “burned up.’’
On our grudge list we set opposite each name our
injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our am­
bitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been
interfered with?
We were usually as definite as this example:

I’m resentful at: The Cause Affects my:

Mr. Brown His attention to my Sex relations.
wife. Self-esteem (fear)
Told my wife of my Sex relations.
mistress. Self-esteem (fear)
Brown may get my Security.
job at the office. Self-esteem (fear)
Mrs. Jones She’s a nut—she Personal relation-
snubbed me. She ship. Self-esteem
committed her hus- (fear)
band for drinking.
He’s my friend.
She’s a gossip.
My employer Unreasonable—Unjust Self-esteem (fear)
— Overbearing — Security.
Threatens to fire
me for drinking
and padding my ex­
pense account.
My wife Misunderstands and Pride—Personal
nags. Likes Brown. sex relations—
Wants house put in Security (fear)
her name.
We went back through our lives. Nothing counted
but thoroughness and honesty. When we were fin­
ished we considered it carefully. The first thing ap­