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92 ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
Tell him how baffled you were, how you finally
learned that you were sick. Give him an account of
the struggles you made to stop. Show him the mental
twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. We
suggest you do this as we have done it in the chapter
on alcoholism. If he is alcoholic, he will understand
you at once. He will match your mental inconsisten­
cies with some of his own.
If you are satisfied that he is a real alcoholic, begin
to dwell on the hopeless feature of the malady. Show
him, from your own experience, how the queer mental
condition surrounding that first drink prevents normal
functioning of the will power. Don’t, at this stage,
refer to this book, unless he has seen it and wishes to
discuss it. And be careful not to brand him as an
alcoholic. Let him draw his own conclusion. If he
sticks to the idea that he can still control his drinking,
tell him that possibly he can—if he is not too alcoholic.
But insist that if he is severely afflicted, there may be
little chance he can recover by himself.
Continue to speak of alcoholism as an illness, a fatal
malady. Talk about the conditions of body and mind
which accompany it. Keep his attention focussed
mainly on your personal experience. Explain that many
are doomed who never realize their predicament.
Doctors are rightly loath to tell alcoholic patients the
whole story unless it will serve some good purpose.
But you may talk to him about the hopelessness of
alcoholism because you offer a solution. You will
soon have your friend admitting he has many, if not
all, of the traits of the alcoholic. If his own doctor
is willing to tell him that he is alcoholic, so much the
better. Even though your protégé may not have en­