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96 ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
Do not be discouraged if your prospect does not re­
spond at once. Search out another alcoholic and try
again. You are sure to find someone desperate enough
to accept with eagerness what you offer. We find it a
waste of time to keep chasing a man who cannot or
will not work with you. If you leave such a person
alone, he may soon become convinced that he cannot
recover by himself. To spend too much time on any
one situation is to deny some other alcoholic an op­
portunity to live and be happy. One of our Fellowship
failed entirely with his first half dozen prospects. He
often says that if he had continued to work on them,
he might have deprived many others, who have since
recovered, of their chance.
Suppose now you are making your second visit to a
man. He has read this volume and says he is prepared
to go through with the Twelve Steps of the program of
recovery. Having had the experience yourself, you
can give him much practical advice. Let him know
you are available if he wishes to make a decision and
tell his story, but do not insist upon it if he prefers to
consult someone else.
He may be broke and homeless. If he is, you might
try to help him about getting a job, or give him a little
financial assistance. But you should not deprive your
family or creditors of money they should have. Per­
haps you will want to take the man into your home for
a few days. But be sure you use discretion. Be certain
he will be welcomed by your family, and that he is
not trying to impose upon you for money, connections,
or shelter. Permit that and you only harm him. You
will be making it possible for him to be insincere.