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134 ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
should constantly have chocolate available for its
quick energy value at times of fatigue. He added that
occasionally in the night a vague craving arose which
would be satisfied by candy. Many of us have noticed
a tendency to eat sweets and have found this practice
beneficial.
A word about sex relations. Alcohol is so sexually
stimulating to some men that they have over-indulged.
Couples are occasionally dismayed to find that when
drinking is stopped the man tends to be impotent. Un­
less the reason is understood, there may be an emo­
tional upset. Some of us had this experience, only to
enjoy, in a few months, a finer intimacy than ever.
There should be no hesitancy in consulting a doctor or
psychologist if the condition persists. We do not
know of many cases where this difficulty lasted long.
The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish
friendly relations with his children. Their young
minds were impressionable while he was drinking.
Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for
what he has done to them and to their mother. The
children are sometimes dominated by a pathetic hard­
ness and cynicism. They cannot seem to forgive and
forget. This may hang on for months, long after their
mother has accepted dad’s new way of living and
thinking.
In time they will see that he is a new man and in
their own way they will let him know it. When this
happens, they can be invited to join in morning med­
itation and then they can take part in the daily discus­
sion without rancor or bias. From that point on,
progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow
such a reunion.