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he became worse. His friends have slipped away, his
home is a near-wreck and he cannot hold a position.
Maybe the doctor has been called in, and the weary
round of sanitariums and hospitals has begun. He ad­
mits he cannot drink like other people, but does not
see why. He clings to the notion that he will yet find
a way to do so. He may have come to the point where
he desperately wants to stop but cannot. His case pre­
sents additional questions which we shall try to answer
for you. You can be quite hopeful of a situation like
this.
Four: You may have a husband of whom you com­
pletely despair. He has been placed in one institution
after another. He is violent, or appears definitely in­
sane when drunk. Sometimes he drinks on the way
home from the hospital. Perhaps he has had delirium
tremens. Doctors may shake their heads and advise
you to have him committed. Maybe you have already
been obliged to put him away. This picture may not
be as dark as it looks. Many of our husbands were
just as far gone. Yet they got well.
Let’s now go back to husband number one. Oddly
enough, he is often difficult to deal with. He enjoys
drinking. It stirs his imagination. His friends feel
closer over a highball. Perhaps you enjoy drinking
with him yourself when he doesn’t go too far. You
have passed happy evenings together chatting and
drinking before your fire. Perhaps you both like
parties which would be dull without liquor. We have
enjoyed such evenings ourselves; we had a good time.
We know all about liquor as a social lubricant. Some,
but not all of us, think it has its advantages when
reasonably used.